Marriage counseling aims to enhance spiritual, emotional, intellectual, physical, and sexual intimacy between spouses. Genuine intimacy thrives on vulnerability, necessitating trust, honesty, security, and transparency as foundational elements.
Marriage Counseling Foundation
At My Life Counsel, our approach to marriage counseling is rooted in a biblical worldview, with the fundamental belief that Christ should be the focal point of every relationship. We emphasize that marriage is not only a commitment between partners but, more significantly, a commitment to God. In a Christ-centered relationship, prioritizing God and selflessly attending to the needs of one's spouse takes precedence over personal desires. We view marriage as a sacred covenant made before God, forging an indissoluble bond between husband and wife. Our understanding of love aligns with the principles outlined in 1 Corinthians 13, distinct from conventional worldly definitions. Furthermore, we shape the character of both husband and wife based on the values delineated in Galatians 5.
In marriage, the foremost priority is to align with God's desires above personal ones. The second priority involves prioritizing the needs of one's spouse over individual desires. The husband's role is to exemplify sacrificial love, mirroring Christ's love for the church, even to the point of Christ's ultimate sacrifice. This means every decision the husband makes is guided by prioritizing his wife's needs. Simultaneously, the wife is called to prioritize her husband's needs. Leveraging their unique God-given strengths, husband and wife collaboratively build a enduring and affectionate partnership. Our understanding of marital roles is derived from the principles outlined in Ephesians 5:22-33.
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“For you created my inmost being: you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” ~ Psalms 139:13 - 14
Marriage counseling can offer a range of benefits, including:
Counseling provides a structured environment where couples can learn effective communication skills, enhancing their ability to express thoughts and feelings.
Couples often face challenges and conflicts. Counseling helps them develop strategies to navigate and resolve issues constructively, fostering a healthier relationship.
Therapists can help couples better understand each other's perspectives, leading to increased empathy and compassion.
Counseling reinforces the commitment to the relationship. Couples can reestablish connection and rediscover the reasons they came together in the first place.
Couples can learn practical skills to manage stress, cope with challenges, and adapt to life changes, strengthening their ability to navigate the complexities of married life.
Marriage counseling provides a supportive environment where couples can express their emotions and concerns openly, with the guidance of a neutral professional.
Prevention of Future Issues:
Addressing current concerns and learning effective relationship skills can prevent the escalation of problems, promoting long-term relationship health.
Increased Intimacy: By addressing underlying issues, couples can experience improved emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy, fostering a deeper connection.
Marriage counseling often involves individual self-reflection, encouraging personal growth to positively impact the relationship dynamic.
Couples may emerge from counseling with a renewed sense of commitment, dedication, and a clearer vision for their future together.
It's important to note that the effectiveness of marriage counseling depends on the willingness of both partners to participate and engage in the process actively.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away."
~1 Corinthians 13:4-8
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."
~ Galatians 5:22-23
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wifeas he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."