Counseling Goals
The goal in marriage counseling is to increase spiritual, emotional, intellectual, physical, and sexual intimacy between husband and wife. True intimacy requires vulnerability. Trust, honesty, security, and transparency are necessary for vulnerability.
Marriage Counseling Foundation
My Life Counsel's marriage counseling is founded on a biblical worldview. Christ must be the center of your relationship. We believe that marriage is a commitment unto one another and more importantly to God. A Christ-centered relationship requires the couple to put God first and your spouses needs ahead of your own selfish needs. Marriage is an unbreakable covenant that a man and woman has made before God. Through this covenant comes an unbreakable bond between husband and wife. We define love as it is defined in 1 Corinthians 13 and not as it is defined by the world. We define the character of husband and wife as it is defined in Galatians 5.
Marital Roles
The first priority of marriage is to set God's desires before your own desires. The second priority of marriage is to set your spouse's needs before your own needs. The husband's marital role is to show his wife sacrifical love as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church. Every decision that the husband makes is to put his wife's needs before his own. Likewise, the wife is to put her husband's needs above her own. Using their God given strengths, husband and wife form a lasting and loving partnership. We define marital roles as it is defined in Ephesians 5:22-33
Temperament Therapy
Temperament therapy is an evidence based therapy that is over 90% effective. It allows you to understand how God has made both of you as individuals. Understanding your spouse and yourself allows for grace. Through grace, you can utilize one another's strengths in order to work through your individual weaknesses. Read more
“For you created my inmost being: you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” ~ Psalms 139:13 - 14
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Love is...
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away."
~1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Marital Character
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."
~ Galatians 5:22-23
Marital Roles
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wifeas he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
~Ephesians 5:22-33
